Lazarus Guestbook

Kirsten

Wed, 18 Aug 2004 06:32:40 +0000

Well, i've been sitting here at my computer for a few hours now.... reading and reviewing everything on this site. I didnt know haley as well as most of the others but when i heard of the accident, i thought about it. I knew Haley more than i thought i had. I first met Haley in Florida where my dance studio travled for the National Dance Competition. She attended this with one of her best freinds Alana. I am also friends with Sean Urbin, a close relative.

It took me a while to find words to put in here. Although I was not good firends with Haley, she amazes me with her ability to touch peoples live. When I attended the memorial service for Haley I quietly walked in clasping my friend Mia's hand tightly. My heart sank as I looked around. The memorial service was beautiful. But the more I looked, the more I realized, all of these people knew Haley. Haley was there for everyone at one point in their life,to have a conversation with, just to say hi, shake a hand, Or even just too smile. Haleys ability to lighten up everyones day had brought all of us together. There were so many people there. So many that there were people standing. Her family, People that knew her, and even people that didnt know her, were there. I will never forget that day in my life.

Haley Victoria April Urbin you truly amaze me. They way you brought a huge part of our community together is so unexplainable. Haley even though we cannot see you, you will alwyas be with us where ever we go.

My deepest sympathy goes out to the Urbin family. All of you have been so strong and so filled with love and devotion to not only yourselves but to the rest of the community as well. You each have encouraged thousands of people to live their life to the fullest. You are all in my prayers...
Sincerely,
Kirsten Parrott

Kirsten

Wed, 18 Aug 2004 06:31:44 +0000

Some poems I thought might interest you....
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Daddy, please don't look so sad, Mama please don't cry~"Cause I am in the arms of Jesus and He sings me lullabies."Please, try not to question God, Don't think he is unkindDon't think He sent me to you, and then He changed his mind.You see, I am aspecial child,and I'm needed up aboveI'm the special gift you gave Him,the product of your love.I'll always be there with you and watch the sky at night, Findthe brightest star that's gleaming,That's my halo's brilliant light.You'll see mein the morning frost,that mists your window pane.That's me in the summer showers, I'll be dancing in the rain.When you feel a little breeze, from a gentle wind that blows That's me, I'll be there, planting a kiss on your nose.When you see a child playing, and your heart feels a little tug,That's me, I'll be there,giving your heart a hug.So Daddy, please don't look so sad,Mama don't your cry.I'm in the arms of Jesus and He sings me lullabies.
Author~Claudette T. Allen
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When I am gone, release me, let me go.I have so many things to see and do.you mustn't tie yourself to me with tears,be happy that we had so many years.I gave you my love, you can only guess how much you gave to me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown,but now its time i travled on alone.So grieve a while for me if grieve you must. Then let your grief be comforted by trust.It's only for a while that we must part,so bless the memories within y our hearts.I won't be far away, for life goes on.So if you need me, call and I will come. Though you can not see or touch me,I'll be near. And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear all of my love around you soft and clear. And then, When you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and say "Welcome Home"
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Everyone misses you Haley but each and everyone of us know that you are still here..........

me

Tue, 17 Aug 2004 16:34:39 +0000

:-( i really didn't know haley at all, thouqh she did go to my school, i knew she was very nice, smart, and atheletic...she seemed like sucha a nice girl, in which she was..it's hard to believe that she is qone :confused: i mean wow i can't believe it..but she was sucha a good person, and everytime i think about it, now i know why God wanted her up there, she is someone anybody could ask for..and even thouqh i didin't knoe her that well, her, and also her family will be in my thouqht's and prayer's...

R.i.p haley we miss you :-(

-me

Amanda

Mon, 16 Aug 2004 15:34:26 +0000

I barely knew Haley but I did know that she made everyone smile n laugh. I ran into her once in the hallway and I would never think that would be my last time seening her. I would do anything to bring Haley back I miss her alot. But I know that she's watching us right now and she's the most Beautiful Angel up there. Mr. n Mrs.Urbin, Klair and Scarlet I'll always pray for you guys I can't imagine how much pain your going threw. Love~Amanda P.

ashley stephens

Mon, 16 Aug 2004 04:06:54 +0000

Haley was extremely close w/ so many she had a heart that noone can surprass. She had a vibe around her that made people drawn to her & even thought i wasnt close w/ her i have memories seeing her, saying hi, hugs goodbye at parties, seventh grade times, she was always looking out for other people i can tell you that much. We were on the same soccer team for about two weeks but automatically she was the first one to acceppt the new comers from below. She was a person every wanted to be around. I still cant believe shes gone. Shes touched so many hearts. I have so much respect for the Urbin family and how great theyve been about it. They seem like they are terrific people. My prayers go out to them.
love always,
ashley

anonomous

Sun, 15 Aug 2004 02:43:26 +0000

i never knew haley, i heard her about the accident last august on the news though, n i was deeply saddened, any loss of life is tragic. but when i went to utica a couple weeks later, i saw all the saddened faces n saw jus how many people's lives she touched. I've heard all the stories from her closest friends and i learned just how much she was loved by everyone around her.and even someone like me felt the loss, I regret never having the oppurtunity to meet a great person. I send my prayers and thoughts to the urbin family. May she rest in peace

Melissa

Fri, 13 Aug 2004 00:12:39 +0000

:-( I sadly never had the honer of meeting this wonderful girl I know here so much. My sister in law was working at the hospital that night and I've heard so many horrible stories about how much pain Haley was in. I too lost a friend when I was 12. I have never been the same. But to her family, and Ally and Kristy and Tim and Steve and anyone else I do know that knew her my prayers are with you. In time you will heal, but the wound will still be there..just under the flesh. She loves all of you. God she was beautiful and now she's truly an angel. Since I too have lost I feel so sorry for all of you. After my sister in law saw the paper I had and I told her my friends knew her, she told me the horrible story and Haley's pain. Rest In Peace Haley you will be missed even by those like me who didnt even know you

.

Thu, 12 Aug 2004 21:31:41 +0000

THINGS HAPPEN IN THIS WORLD - YOU TRY TO SIT BACK AND MAKE SENSE OF THEM - THIS SITUATION IS NO DIFFERENT - AS A PERSON THAT STRONGLY BELIEVES IN GOD I HAVE HAD A VERY HARD TIME WITH THIS WHOLE SITUATION - WHEN IT FIRST HAPPEND I SAT BACK - SAW THE LOVE FOR THIS YOUNG LADY - I WAS TRULY INSPIRED AND AMAZED BY WHAT I SAW - UNDENIABLE LOVE AND UNBREAKABLE FRIENDSHIP - EVEN THOSE WHO NEVER MET HALEY (LIKE ME) HAVE BEEN TOUCHED BY HER AND HER BEAUTIFUL GROUP OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY - THEN AS THIS PASSED THIS YEAR I DIDN'T THINK THAT IT WOULD HIT ME THE WAY THAT IT DID - I STARTED TO QUESTION THINGS - WHY? - FOR A COUPLE DAYS BEFORE THE MEMORIAL SERVICE I WAS JUST IN A REAL WEIRD MOOD - ONE THAT I CAN'T EXPLAIN - I STARTED MAYBE DOUBTING MY BELIEFS WONDERING THAT IF GOD WAS SO GREAT THEN WHY THIS? - I HAD SUCH A HEAVY HEART - THEN I WENT TO THE MEMORIAL SERVICE AND AS BEAUTIFUL AS IT WAS TO ME I STILL HAD SOME OF THOSE FEELINGS - THEN ON WEDNESDAY WITH THOSE FEELINGS STILL INSIDE I FINALLY OPENED UP TO SOMEBODY AND TALKED TO THEM ABOUT IT - IT REALLY FELT GOOD TO JUST GET IT ALL OUT - SOMETIMES THE BEST THING IS TO JUST TALK (AND CRY) UNTIL YOU JUST CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE - THOUGH RIGHT AFTER THAT CONVERSATION I FELT GOOD, I DIDN'T EXPECT WHAT HAPPEND NEXT - I WENT TO THE PHARMACY AND AS I WALKED OUT THIS STRANGE PERSON CAME FROM AROUND A CORNER OF THE STORE AND WALKED UP TO ME - (REMEMBER, MY FAITH IN GOD IS VERY STRONG - BUT I HAD SOME QUESTIONS AT THIS TIME)THEY SPOKE - " DO YOU BELIEVE THAT THE LORD IS OUR SAVIOR AND THAT WE LIVE FOR HIM?" I IMMEDIATELY ANSWERED "YES! WITHOUT A DOUBT." THEN THEY LOOKED INTO MY EYES - WAITED A SECOND AND SAID " I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT GOD WILL NEVER GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE - HE WILL ALWAYS BE BY YOUR SIDE, HE WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU." I FROZE - WENT INTO A ZONE FOR A MOMENT -THEN THIS PERSON JUST KIND OF DISAPPEARED FROM WHEREVER THEY HAD COME FROM. I WENT TO MY CAR AND SAT THERE FOR A MOMENT WITH TEARS ON MY FACE AND GRABBED MY BIBLE AND SAID "THANK YOU" OUT LOUD - YOU SEE, SHE HASN'T LEFT US, BUT ONLY IN THE PHYSICAL SENSE - SHE IS STILL IMPACTING THOSE WHO DON'T EVEN KNOW HER - SHE CONTINUES TO HELP SO MANY - WE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO SEE HER - BUT SHE IS WORKING FOR GOD, LIKE SHE ALWAYS HAS, AND I CAN SEE HER IN EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU.

I MAY HAVE HAD A MOMENT OF WEAKNESS - BUT HALEY HELPED - HELPED ME THROUGH A TIME - SHE MADE ME DOUBT - MADE ME RAISE QUESTIONS - THEN GOD REASSURED ME - WITH THE HELP OF HALEY, GOD TAUGHT ME ANOTHER LESSON - MADE MY BELIEF THAT MUCH STRONGER -

ISAIAH 41:13
FOR I AM THE LORD, YOUR GOD, WHO TAKES HOLD OF YOUR RIGHT HAND AND SAYS TO YOU, "DO NOT FEAR, I WILL HELP YOU!

GOD BLESS THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF HALEY URBIN - YOU WILL ALL CONTINUE TO BE IN MY PRAYERS -

anonymous

Wed, 11 Aug 2004 19:55:11 +0000

I've been trying for the past week to somehow decribe how I feel to sign this guestbook. But the truth is, there is no possible way to put into words the affect Haley and her death has had on my life. She was the most incredible person I have ever met. Beautiful, smart, funny. Flawless. Perfect. No, perfect is an understatement. There will never be anyone like Haley. She brought everyone together like nobody ever could. I want so bad to see the Urbin's and tell them that I care. But I'm scared. Because I know how horrible I feel, so I can only imagine the pain they still feel.

Urbin family, you're always in my prayers. You have wonderful daughters and nobody could ever live up to how amazing those 3 are.

Mia Schiappacasse

Wed, 11 Aug 2004 14:55:21 +0000

Haley, I'm writing this more to you. Thank you for teaching me everything you did when I was little. You were the person I always looked up to in elementry. Everytime you came over to babysit me, I'd always want to try on your clothes to be just like you. I still look up to you and will never forget the times I spent with you. I cry because your gone but smile because I had the chance to be close with you. I'm sorry we slipped away once junior high came but even though you didn't know, you've made such an impact on everyones life! I can't wait to see you again.

--One year and your smile hasn't left my eyes, your laugh is still in my head, and you are always in my heart.--

I love you Haley!

--And to the Urbin family thank you for everything you've done for me and my family, your in my prayers.--

Big Sis

Wed, 11 Aug 2004 05:46:56 +0000

I've sort of stood in the shadows, sat back and watched as all this went on. I knew Haley a bit, but not as much as a lot of you. I would just like to give my sympathy to her family, friends, and everyone who had the chance to come across this amazing girl in their life. I would like to let you all know, that in only a year you have all grown so much, and it brings a smile to my face just watching you all. I'm never that great with words of wisdom, but the power of music sometimes helps me through difficult times, and just listening to Mr. Urbin so bravely sing about his daughter is amazing to me. I was burning a cd, after the service monday night, and as I was searching for songs I came across one that just made me stop. I listened to it three or four times, and I couldn't help but laugh. Just watching the impact the situation had on my brother over the last year, I could not think of a more moving and perfect song to describe how she is feeling. I hope you all can relate to it, and my deepest apologies go out to everyone. God Bless to All, and remember smile.

Smile
(Chris Lindsey/Keith Follese)

I still remember the night we met
You said you loved my smile
But your love for me was like a summer breeze
Oh, it lasted for a while
I could hold on a little tighter I know
But when you love someone you gotta let 'em go so

I'm gonna smile, cause I want to make you happy
Laugh, so you can't see me cry
I'm gonna let you go in style
And even if it kills me
I'm gonna smile

Kiss me once for the good times, baby
Kiss me twice for goodbye
You can't help how you don't feel
And it doesn't matter why
Give me a chance to bow out gracefully
'Cause that's how I want you to remember me

I'm gonna smile, cause I want to make you happy
Laugh, so you can't see me cry
I'm gonna let you go in style
And even if it kills me
I'm gonna smile

I'm gonna smile so you can find the courage
Laugh, so you won't see me hurtin'
I'm gonna let you go in style
And even if it kills me
I'm gonna smile
:D

rip haley

Tue, 10 Aug 2004 20:04:55 +0000

:-( :-( i never new haley or met her but alot of my friends have, from what i hear her smile coulde lite up a whole room and she wus a sweat heart and cared so much about things!! my prayers go out to all her family and friends!

Jamie Hidy

Mon, 09 Aug 2004 20:04:10 +0000

To put into words the impact haley had on my life is impossible. I was always the "shy girl" and didnt have many friends and it was hard to make them. But when i met haley i had gained a friend so fast i couldnt believe it. She instantly takes a liking to people, thats what was so special about her. You had her trust from the moment you met her. She would make sure you always had a smile on your face..and you could get that by just looking at hers. She was always so full of happiness and I always wonder where she got it from. Then after the accident I got the chance to be closer to her family and I saw where she got all of her "spunk" from. Her mother always is looking at the glass half full and makes sure that all of Haleys friends do too. Scarlet has become somone I look forward to seeing and she makes me smile because she has Haleys light shining from her, no one reminds me of Haley as much as Scarlet does. I have learned now that we cant be sad for Haley. This was meant to be no matter how heartbreaking it is..i now can look at everyday and not say its one more day behind me without her, but one more day closer to seeing her again.
I love you so much Haley
and my prayers go out to her family and all of her friends. :-)

-Jamie

Anonymous

Mon, 09 Aug 2004 12:10:44 +0000

I never knew Haley, but alot of my friends knew her and were also friends with her. She seemed like a nice girl, and it really makes you think - one bad mistake can cost you everything :-(

chris luteran

Sun, 08 Aug 2004 22:33:11 +0000

I met Haley about a week before the accident at brian larsons graduation party. She seemed like a really good person when i met her and i feel really bad about what happened. I just found out she had a site today so i decided to sign the guestbook.

Someone who cares

Sun, 08 Aug 2004 06:48:30 +0000

I wrote this poem the day that Haley passed away...

An angel grew her wings today
To me her last breath was unknown
But the memories of her still here
Fresh and overgrown
She was so happy, and so nice
Truly an angel in disguise
Its hard to think that she is gone
Nothing you want to realize
Her love has touched the earth
Through her angel breath
Some say that she is gone
Some say there's nothing left
But her soul will live throughout our lives
Until our own dying day
When we can share these thoughts with heres
When we can say what we need to say.
-Anonymous...

God Bless you ALL...

-Someone who cares

Heather Jerzewski

Thu, 05 Aug 2004 18:46:14 +0000

I went to Eppler with Haley. I was a grade younger than her but I remember our brief hi's and bye's. All my friends would always sit by the heaters in the hallway after lunch and I just remember her and alana and Jessica standing by the other one every single day. I remember her smile, and her way of always making people smile. I was never close with Haley but the impact she left on people is Amazing. So many people love Haley. I have pictures of her in my room that I just sit and stare at everyday because I just cannot believe that she is actually gone. I remember the day crystal clear. And I remember thinking "Why would someone play some kind of sick joke like this" UNTIL I found out it was real. I remember coming to my aunts, where I am right now and sitting by the lake thinking about how short life can really be. Haley lived a short life, but a good one. A year later and I still cannot believe she is gone. But in my Heart and in many others. Haley isnt gone. She is still living, within all of us. Haley was a wonderful person and I still sit and wonder why god would like to take someone who was loved so much. But then I realized that he takes nothing but the best. Haley you are always with us, and we all think about you all the time. Alot of things have changed without you. BUt one day we will all meet again.
We love you..R.I.P
..Love Heather J.

anonomys

Mon, 02 Aug 2004 23:16:06 +0000

i didnt know haley at all. but just from reading this page, tears have built up in my eyes. i dont really know scarlet either, but i played volleyball with her and shes an amazing girl. i can only imagine haley was the same way. my thoughts and prayers are with you, the urbin family. i am very sorry for what has happened and i cant even imagine how you must feel. i feel like i knwo haley a little bit just from reading this web page. my older brother was friends with haley and went to her funeral last summer. he came home with tears in his eyes, he doesnt cry very much at all. so i can only imagine what she must have meant to him. haley is gorgeous and many people who i am friends with used to tell me stories about her. my image of her is:shes a wonderful and bright girl. she can always cheer people up from what i hear. and she is loves and missed by many. just remember that my thoughts and prayers are with you every day. :-(

Justin Hrynyk

Sun, 01 Aug 2004 03:19:52 +0000

I've know the uribin Family almost my whole life. I moved onto their street when I was about three. I've hung out with Scarlet and Haley a lot in those 10 years. I heard about Haley passing away and couldn't believe what had happened. In the past year iv'e got to know scarlet a lot more than I ever thought i would, remember you can talk to me about anything. Our song that we sing ..got2 do that again. My thoughts and prayers are with the urbin family.

Leslie

Sat, 31 Jul 2004 04:35:19 +0000

The Urbin family are clients at the hair salon that i work at, and even though i did not know Haley as well as i know the others, i was very sad to hear of her passing. She was a beautiful and talented young lady whose life was cut short. I just want you all to know that Haley will forever be in my thoughts and prayers as well as the rest of your family. Take care and God bless.